Unveiling Ceremonies

A Jewish unveiling ceremony, also known as the "HaKamet Matzavah" (the setting up of the stone), is a traditional event to formally dedicate a gravestone or monument to the grave of a deceased person. This ceremony typically occurs within a year after the burial, often around the first yahrzeit (anniversary of death) but sometimes sooner, after the 30-day mourning period known as shloshim. Here are the critical elements of a Jewish unveiling ceremony:

The first step is the monument selection conference

A design conference is scheduled. This typically occurs 30-90 days after the burial. A member of the Aaron-Ruben-Nelson staff will guide family members in selecting a monument that fits their budget and meets all cemetery requirements. Depending on the selection, some monuments can take up to 12 months to produce.

It is best to wait until the monument is installed to schedule the unveiling ceremony.

The Unveiling Ceremony

The service is typically informal, with family and friends standing around the grave and headstone. The ceremony is conducted solemnly and respectfully. Clergy may officiate; however, in instances where no clergy is available, a family member or friend may also officiate. It is customary to recite psalms, poems, and remembrances to honor the memory of the deceased. The service concludes with the recitation of the Mourner’s Kaddish.

In summary, the Jewish unveiling ceremony is a meaningful tradition that not only allows the community to come together and remember the deceased but also plays a crucial role in offering support to the bereaved family. Your presence at this ceremony is a testament to the strength of our community and your commitment to honoring the memory of the deceased.